What Loss Taught Me About Living More Deeply
I lost a close friend and business partner in an unexpected, tragic, and very public way. One moment she was here — laughing, making plans — and the next, she was gone.
A different way forward
Most people don’t realize how much of their life has been shaped by expectations — family, work, relationships, responsibility — until they start to feel disconnected from themselves.
There are seasons in life where what used to fit… doesn’t anymore.
YOU MAY BE NAVIGATING:
What you’re really experiencing isn’t failure. It’s a signal that you’re ready to build a life that reflects what is true for you.
It can appear even in full lives — as a sense of distance, disconnection, or lack of inner alignment.
It is often less about people, and more about relationship: to yourself, your work, or the way you are living.
It is often a signal that something in you is underused, under-stimulated, or no longer aligned with how you are living.
It can show up as restlessness, flatness, or a sense that life has become smaller than you.
It is often a transition point where one way of living no longer fits, and the next has not yet fully formed.
It can feel like uncertainty or suspension — between what was and what is not yet clear.
For two decades I worked in public relations — helping people and companies shape polished stories. It was rewarding work, until life made it clear that the real power wasn’t in refining a story, but in living one that’s actually true.
What followed was the kind of stretch that quietly rewrites you — a divorce, the grief of losing the shape of a family, raising kids through it, and the slow reinvention that happens when an old identity stops fitting.
My mother’s Alzheimer’s stripped away even more layers. Loss has a way of doing that. It made the question simple: am I living a life that is actually mine?
Today my work splits between Los Angeles and wine country — a vineyard view, a life shaped less by what I planned and more by what I learned to honor when the plan didn’t hold.
Today, I coach people who are standing at a crossroads — navigating divorce, grief, career changes, identity shifts, empty nesting, or simply the quiet ache of wondering, “Is this really the life I want?”
I work with people who feel disconnected from themselves after years of meeting expectations, caring for others, or trying to hold everything together.
As your coach, I don’t hand you a new story. I help you see the stories that have shaped you — both the ones you’ve been told, and the ones you’ve learned to believe about yourself — so you can begin to understand what is actually true beneath them.
Together, we look at where those old expectations and internal narratives no longer fit, and begin building a life that reflects who you truly are.
Because you are not bound by the story you’ve been told.
And you are not limited by the story you’ve been telling yourself.
You are living one already — and you have the power to reshape it.
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I lost a close friend and business partner in an unexpected, tragic, and very public way. One moment she was here — laughing, making plans — and the next, she was gone.
When my son once told me, “Your kinder and gentler divorce made me just the right amount of tough,” I knew I had done something right in the middle of one of the hardest seasons of my life.
After a decade of raising my kids full-time, my husband’s business went under when the recession hit, and suddenly, I had to go back to work. I was terrified.
Wherever you are in your story — starting over, questioning everything, grieving, growing, or simply wanting something more honest — I’ll help you reconnect with yourself and build a life that reflects what is true for you.
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